9. Intimacy and Emotions, Personal Healing and Growth, Relationships

(Excerpted from The Men's Bibliography: A comprehensive bibliography of writing on men, masculinities, gender, and sexualities, compiled by Michael Flood. 19th edition, 2008. Home URL: http://mensbiblio.xyonline.net/)

a) General References

Note: Also see the section on men's sexuality, as this includes many references on men's sexual and intimate relationships.

Abbott, Franklin. (ed.). (1990). Men and Intimacy: Personal Accounts Exploring the Dilemmas of Modern Male Sexuality. California: Crossing Press.

Ahmed, Sara. (2004). The Cultural Politics of Emotion. Edinburgh: Edinburgh University Press.

Aldridge, M. E. (2001). Confessional culture, masculinity and emotional work. Journalism, 2(1): 91-108.

Allen, Marvin, and Jo Robinson. (1993). In the Company of Men: Freeing the Masculine Heart. Random House.

Allen, Marvin, with Jo Robinson. (1994). Angry Men, Passive Men: Understanding the Roots of Men’s Anger and How to Move Beyond It. New York: Fawcett Columbine.

Ansley, Chris. (2004). ‘She feels I hold too much in’: Exploring romantic intimacy, mental illness and masculinity. NZMSJ, 1, March.

Balswick, Jack. (1982). Male Inexpressiveness: Psychological and Emotional Aspects. In Solomon, Kenneth and Levy, Norman. (eds). Men in Transition: Theory and Therapy. New York: Plenum

Balswick, Jack. (1988). The Inexpressive Male. Lexington, Massachussetts: Lexington Books.

Baraff, Alvin. (1992). Men Talk: How Men Really Feel About Women, Sex, Relationships and Themselves. NAL/Dutton.

Becker, Verne. (1992). The Real Man Inside: How Men Can Recover Their Identity and Why Women Can’t Help, Zondervan.

Bendelow, Gillian, and Simon J. Williams. (eds). (1998). Emotions in Social Life: Critical Themes and Contemporary Issues. Routledge. Includes;.
Duncombe, Jean and Marsden, Dennis. ‘Stepford Wives’ and ‘Hollow Men’: Doing Emotion Work, Doing Gender and ‘Authenticity’ in Intimate Heterosexual Relationships.
Prendergast, Shirley and Forrest, Simon. ‘Shorties, Low-Lifers, Hardnuts and Kings’: Boys, Emotions and Embodiment in School.
Seidler Victor J. Masculinity, Violence and Emotional Life.
Seidler Victor J. Masculinity and Emotional Life: Rejection, Fear and Intimacy.

Berlant, Lauren. (1997). The Queen of America Goes To Washington City: Essays on Sex and Citizenship. Durham, NC: Duke University Press.

Berlant, Lauren. (ed.). (2000). Intimacy. University of Chicago Press.

Bianchi, Eugene, and Rosemary Reuther. (1976). From Machismo to Mutuality. New York: Paulist Press.

Bilodeau, Louraine. (1992). The Anger Workbook. Minnesota: Hazelden.

Blazina, Christopher. (2001). Gender Role Conflicted Men’s Poor Parental Attachment and Separation/Individuation Difficulties: Knights Without Armor in a Savage Land. Journal of Men’s Studies, Volume 9 Number 2, Winter

Boscagli, Maurizia. (1992-93) ‘A Moving Story’: Masculine Tears and the Humanity of Televised Emotions. Discourse, 15(2), Winter, pp. 64-79.

Brennan, Teresa. (2004). The Transmission of Affect. Ithaca, NY: University of Cornell Press.

Cardelle, Frank. (1990). Journey to Brotherhood: Awakening, Healing and Connecting Men’s Hearts. New York/Sydney/London: Gardner Press.

Carrier, Joseph. (1995). De los otros: Intimacy and Homosexuality Among Mexican Men. Columbia University Press.

Carter, Steven. (year?). Men Who Can’t Love.

Castleman, Michael. (1988). Making Love: A Guide to Sexual Fulfilment For Men - and Women, (Revised edition) London: Penguin.

Cate, Rodrey M., and Sally A. Lloyd. (year?). Courtship. Sage.

Chambers, Deborah (2006). New Social Ties: Contemporary Connections in a Fragmented Society.
Changing Ideas about Social Ties.
Freedom and Choice in Personal Relationships.
Hegemonic Masculine Identities and Male Bonds.
Feminine Identities and Female Bonds.
The Decline and Rise of ‘Community’.
Network Society.
Virtual Intimacy and Online Sociality.
The Politics of Social and Personal Relationships.

Clark, Margaret S. (ed.). (1992). Emotions and Social Behaviour. Sage.

Clothier, Peter. (1997). While I Am Not Afraid: Secrets of a Man’s Heart.

Cole, Edwin Louis. (year?). On Becoming a Real Man. Thomas Nelson.

Conway, Michael. (2000). On sex roles and representations of emotional experience: Masculinity, femininity, and emotional awareness. Sex Roles, Nov., Vol. 43, Iss. 9/10.

Conway, Robert. (1983). Being Male: A Guide for Masculinity in a Time of Change. Sth Melbourne: Macmillan.

Cooper, Mick, and Peter Baker. (1996). Emotions: The Feeling Man. Chapter 2 in The MANual: The Complete Man’s Guide to Life. London: Thorsons.

Cowlishaw, Bridget Roussell. (2002). Subjects Are from Mars, Objects Are from Venus: Construction of the Self in Self-help. Journal of Popular Culture, Volume 35 Issue 1, Summer.

Crawford, June, Susan Kippax, et. al. (1992). Emotion and Gender: Constructing Meaning From Memory. London: Sage .

Cvetkovich, Ann. (2003). An Archive of Feelings: Trauma, Sexuality and Lesbian Public Cultures. Durham, NC: Duke University Press.

Dalbey, Gorden. (1989). Healing the Masculine soul. Melbourne: Word.

De Foore, Bill. (1991). Anger: Deal With It, Heal With It, Stop It From Killing You. Deerfield Beach, Florida: Health Communications.

Dowrick, Stephanie. (1998). Forgiveness and Other Acts of Love.

Doyle, D. D. (2004). Rethinking manhood and intimacy. Reviews in American History, 32(4): 526.

Duncombe, Jean, and Dennis Marsden. (1995). Can men love? – ‘Reading’, ‘staging’ and ‘resisting’ the romance. In Lynne Pearce and Jackie Stacey. (eds) Romance Revisited. London: Lawrence & Wishart, pp. 238-250.

Edgar, Don. (1997). Men, Mateship, Marriage: The Myth of the Male in Love, Sex and Friendship. HarperCollins.

Edwards, Susan. (1995). When Men Believe in Love. Shaftesbury, Dorset: Element.

Ehrenreich, Barbara. (1983). The Hearts of Men: American Dreams and the Flight From Commitment. New York: Anchor Press/Doubleday.

Erwin, Phil. (1998). Friendship in Childhood and Adolescence. London & New York: Routledge.

Falling Buzzard, Karen S. (2002). The Coca Cola of Self Help: The Branding of John Gray’s Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus. Journal of Popular Culture, Volume 35 Issue 4, Spring.

Fanning, Patrick, and Matthew McKay. (1993). Being a Man: A Guide to the New Masculinity. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications.

Fischer, Agneta H. (1993). Sex Differences in Emotionality: Fact or Stereotype?. Feminism & Psychology, 3(3).

Floyd, K. (2006). Communicating affection: Interpersonal behavior and social context. Cambridge, England: Cambridge University Press.

Galasinski, Dariusz. (2004). Men and the Language of Emotions.
Men and their Emotions.
Stories of Emotional Masculinity.
‘There is a Concern’ - Strategies of Emotion Talk.
‘No worries’, or the Emotional View of Reality.
Emotions of Fatherhood.
Speaking Helplessly: The Emotions of Unemployment.
Masculinity? What Masculinity?

Giddens, Anthony. (1992). The Transformation of Intimacy: Love, Sexuality and Emotion in Modern Societies. Polity Press.

Gorski, Terence T. (1993). Getting Love Right: Learning the Choices of Healthy Intimacy. New York: Simon & Schuster.

Gorton, K. (2007). Theorizing emotion and affect: Feminist engagements. Feminist Theory, 8(3): 333-348.

Hicks, Robert. (1991). Uneasy Manhood: The Quest for Self-Understanding. Thomas Nelson.

Hopcke, Robert H. (1990). Men’s Dreams, Men’s Healing: A Psychotherapist Explores a New View of Masculinity Through Jungian Dreamwork. Boston & London: Shambhala.

Hornstein, H. (year?). A Knight in Shining Armour: Understanding Men’s Romantic Illusions.

Jackson, Graham. (1991). The Secret Lore of Gardening: Patterns of Male Intimacy. Toronto, ON: Inner City Press.

Jakupcak, M., K. Salters, K.L. Gratz, and L. Roemer. (2003). Masculinity and Emotionality: An Investigation of Men’s Primary and Secondary Emotional Responding. Sex Roles, August, vol. 49, no. 3-4, pp. 111-120.

Jakupcak, Matthew, Matthew T. Tull, and Lizabeth Roemer (2005). Masculinity, Shame, and Fear of Emotions as Predictors of Men’s Expressions of Anger and Hostility. Psychology of Men & Masculinity, 6(4), October.

Jamieson, Lynn. (1998). Intimacy: Personal Relationships in Modern Society. Cambridge: Polity Press.

July, William II. (2001). Understanding the Tin Man: Why So Many Men Avoid Intimacy. New York: Broadway Books.

Kelly, Janice R., and Sarah L. Hutson-Comeaux. (1999). Gender-emotion stereotypes are context specific. Sex Roles, Jan., Vol. 40, Iss. 1/2.

Kimmel, Michael S. (2000). Gendered Intimacies: Friendship and Love. Chapter 9 in The Gendered Society. New York & Oxford: Oxford University Press.

Kritsberg, Wayne, John Lee, and Sheperd Bliss. (1994). A Quiet Strength: Meditations on the Masculine Soul. New York: Bantam.

Kundtz, David. (2004). Nothing’s Wrong: A Man’s Guide to Managing His Feelings. Boston: Conari Press.

Kundtz, David. (year?). Men and Feelings: Understanding the Male Experience.

Kupers, Terry A. (1993). Revisioning Men’s Lives: Gender, Intimacy, and Power. New York & London: Guilford Press.

Lazear, Jonathon. (1992). Meditations for Men Who Do Too Much. New York: Fireside/Parkside.

Levant, Ronald F., with Gina Kopecky. (1996). Men and Relationships: Coming In Out of the Cold. Chapter 10 in Masculinity Reconstructed: Changing the Rules of Manhood at Work, in Relationships, and in Family Life. New York: Plume.

Lewis, R. (1978) Emotional Intimacy Among Men. Journal of Social Issues, Vol 34, no. 1, pp 108-21.

Lombardo, William K., Gary A. Cretser, and Scott C. Roesch. (2001). For crying out loud--the differences persist into the ‘90s. Sex Roles, Oct., Vol. 45, Iss. 7/8.

Martin, Bill, Sharyn Roach Anleu, and Maria Zadoroznyj. (eds.). (2003). Journal of Sociology, Special Issue: ‘Commercializing Emotions’, December, Volume 39, No. 4.
Kylie Jarrett / Labour of Love: An Archaeology of Affect as Power in E-Commerce (335-351).
Ken W. Parker / Sign Consumption in the 19th-Century Department Store: An Examination of Visual Merchandising in the Grand Emporiums (1846-1900) (353-371).
Raelene Wilding / Romantic Love and ‘Getting Married’: Narratives of the Wedding in and Out of Cinema Texts (373-389).
Ian Woodward / Divergent Narratives in the Imagining of the Home amongst Middle-Class Consumers: Aesthetics, Comfort and the Symbolic Boundaries of Self and Home (391-412).
Rebecca Hazleden / Love Yourself: The Relationship of the Self with Itself in Popular Self-Help Texts (413-428).

May, Larry. (1998). Anger, Desire, and Moral Responsibility. Chapter 1 in Masculinity and Morality, Ithaca & London: Cornell University Press.

Mazis, Glen A. (1993). Trickster, Magician and Grieving Man: Reconnecting Men With Earth. Santa Fe, New Mexico: Bean & Co.

McGill, Michael E. (1986). The McGill Report on Male Intimacy. Perenial Library.

Middleton, Peter. (1992). The Lost Language of Emotion. Chapter 6 in The Inward Gaze: Masculinity and Subjectivity in Modern Culture. London: Routledge.

Moore, Thomas. (1998). The Soul of Sex: Cultivating Life as an Act of Love.

Naifeh, Steven, and Gregory Smith. (1984). Why Can’t Men Open Up? Overcoming Men’s Fear of Intimacy. New York: Clarkson N. Potter.

Ngai, Sianne. (2005). Ugly Feelings. Cambridge, MA: Harvard University Press.

Nowinski, Joseph. (1991). Men, Love and Sex. Thorsons.

Nowinski, Joseph. (1993). Hungry Hearts: On Men, Intimacy, Self-Esteem, and Addiction. New York: Lexington Books.

Osherson, Samuel. (1992). Wrestling With Love: How Men Struggle With Intimacy With Women, Children, Parents, and Each Other. New York & Toronto: Fawcett Columbine.

Pasick, Robert. (1992). Awakening From the Deep Sleep: A Practical Guide for Men in Transition. San Francisco: Harper.

Pease, Bob. (2002). Men and intimacy: Masculinities, emotions and relationships. Chapter 6 in Men and Gender Relations. Melbourne: Tertiary Press.

Peel, M., B. Caine, and C. To womey. (2007). Masculinity, Emotion and Subjectivity: Introduction. Journal of Men’s Studies, 15(3): 247.

Petitti, Richard E. (1986). Notions and Reforms: In the Coming of Age. Self-Realisation Books (The Sensitive Man Project).

Probyn, Elspeth. (2005). Blush: Faces of Shame. Minneapolis: University of Minnesota Press.

Riley, Denise. (2005). Impersonal Passion: Language as Affect. Durham, NC: Duke University.

Robertson, John M., Chi-Wei Lin, Joyce Woodford, Kimberly K. Danos, and Mark A. Hurst. (2001). The (Un)Emotional Male: Physiological, Verbal, and Written Correlates of Expressiveness. Journal of Men’s Studies, 9(3), Spring, pp. 393-412.

Roseneil, Sasha, and Shelley Budgeon. (2004). Cultures of Intimacy and Care beyond ‘the Family’: Personal Life and Social Change in the Early 21st Century. Current Sociology, Vol. 52, No. 2, pp. 135-159.

Sattel, Jack W. (1983). Men, Inexpressiveness, and Power. In Laurel Richardson and Verta Taylor. (eds). Feminist Frontiers: Rethinking Sex, Gender, and Society. Reading, MA: Addison-Wesley Publishing Company.

Sattel, Jack W. (1992). The Inexpressive Male: Tragedy or Sexual Politics?. In Michael Kimmel and Michael Messner. (eds). Men’s Lives. New York & Toronto: Macmillan/Maxwell (2nd edition), pp. 350-358.

Schwartz, Pepper. (1994). Peer Marriage: How Love Between Equals Really Works. New York: The Free Press.

Sedgwick, Eve Kosofsky. (2003). Touching Feeling: Affect, Pedagogy, Performativity. Durham, NC: Duke University Press.

Seidler, Victor J. (1985). Fear and Intimacy. In Andy Metcalf and Martin Humphries. (eds). The Sexuality of Men. London: Pluto Press.

Seidler, Victor J. (1989). Intimacy. Chapter 9 in Rediscovering Masculinity: Reason, Language and Sexuality. London & New York: Routledge.

Simon, R. W., Nath, L. E. (2004). Gender and Emotion in the United States – Do Men and Women Differ in Self-Reports of Feelings and Expressive Behavior. American Journal of Sociology, 109(5): 1137-1176.

Simon, Robin W., and Leda E. Nath. (2004). Gender and Emotion in the United States: Do Men and Women Differ in Self-Reports of Feelings and Expressive Behavior?. American Journal of Sociology, v.109 no.5 March.

Steiner, C. (year?) Creating an Ecology for Emotional Literacy. Source Unknown.

Steven, Claude M. (1986). When a Man Loves a Woman: Sexual and Emotional Intimacy for the Modern Man. New York: Grove Press,

Thomas, S.P. (2003). Anger: the mismanaged emotion. Medsurg Nursing, Apr., Vol. 12, Iss. 2.

Walton, C., A. Coyle, and E. Lyons. (2004). Death and football: an analysis of men’s talk about emotions. British Journal of Social Psychology, Sep., Vol. 43.

Whitehead, Stephen (ed.). (2006). Men and Masculinities: Critical Concepts in Sociology. 5 Volumes.
Volume 3.
48. J. Rutherford. (1999). ‘Silence’, I am No Longer Myself Without You.
49. V. Seidler. (1992). ‘Men, sex and relationships’, Men, Sex and Relationships: Writings from Achilles Heel.
50. A. Singleton. (2003). ‘Men Getting Real?’ Journal of Sociology.

Whitehead, Stephen M. (2002). Private Men. Chapter 5 in Men and Masculinities: Key Themes and New Directions. Cambridge: Polity Press.

Winstead, Barbara, Valerian J. Derlega, and Suzanne Rose. (1997). Gender and Close Relationships. Sage.

Wong, Y. Joel, and Aaron B. Rochlen. (2005). Demystifying Men’s Emotional Behavior: New Directions and Implications for Counseling and Research. Psychology of Men & Masculinity, Vol. 6, No. 1, 62-72.Wood, Julia T. (1995). Feminist Scholarship and the Study of Relationships. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 12(1).

Wright, H. Norman. (1996). What Men Want: Why Men Think, Feel & Act the Way They Do.

-. (1998). Papers to National Forum on Men and Family Relationships, Canberra, 9-11 June.
Cox-May, Valerie. Mateship and Relationships: The Challenge of Emotional Connection for Australian Men.
Drummond, Murray. The Changing Meaning of Relationships in the Lifecourse of Male Athletes.
Giblett, Noel. Men and Relationships Services: Putting the Cart Before the Horse? Papering Over the Cracks?.
Melvin, Terry and Gee, Tony. On the Backfoot: Men, Relationships and Accessing Services.
Weiss, Karen. Men Moving Toward ‘Mutuality’ in Relationships: Issues for Men in the Early Stages of Family Life.

-. (1993). Journal of Social Issues, Special Issue: Gender and Close Relationships, 49(3).

-. (1993). XY: Men, Sex, Politics, Special Issue: How Do You Feel?. 3(1), Autumn.


Journal of Social and Personal Relationships.

b) Relationships With Women

Note: Also see "Heterosexuality" under "Sexuality" below for many relevant references.

Anderson, Kristin. (1998). Pop Psychology as Science and Infomercial as Journalism: ABC News Sponsors John Gray’s Interplanetary Sexism. Sojourner, February.

Biddulph, Steve. (1994). Men and Women. Chapter 6 in Manhood: A Book About Setting Men Free. Sydney: Finch Publishing.

Charnofsky, Stan. When Women Leave Men: How Men Feel, How Men Heal.

Cooper, Mick, and Peter Baker. (1996). Relationships: The Intimate Man. Chapter 3 in The MANual: The Complete Man’s Guide to Life. London: Thorsons.

Corey, Michael. (1989). Why Men Cheat: Psychological Profiles of the Adulterous Male. Springfield, Illinois: Thomas.

Cox, Tracey. (1999). Hot Relationships. Sydney: Bantam Books

Ehrenreich, Barbara. (1983). The Hearts of Men: American Dreams and the flight From Commitment. New York: Anchor Press/Doubleday.

Eisler, Riane. (1996). Sacred Pleasure: Sex, Myths and the Politics of the Body - New Paths to Power and Love. Sydney: Doubleday.

Fanning, Patrick, and Matthew McKay. (1993). Being Two: Making Partnership Work. Chapter 8 in Being a Man: A Guide to the New Masculinity. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications.

Fein, Ellen, and Sherrie Schneider. (1996). The Rules: Time Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right.

Feinstein, Bruce. (1986). Real Men Don’t Eat Quiche and Nice Guys Sleep Alone: Dating in the Difficult Eighties. New York: Dell.

Glass, Lillian. (1993). He Says, She Says: Closing the Communication Gap Between the Sexes. Sydney: Bantam Books.

Gray, John. (1992). Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus: A Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting What You Want in Relationships. Harper Collins.

Gray, John. (1993). Men, Women and Relationships: Making Peace With the Opposite Sex. Oregon: Beyond Words Publishing.

Green, Toby. (1996). If You Really Loved Me: The No-Nonsense How-To-Get-A-Life Guide to Relationships. Milson’s Pt, NSW: Random House.

Gottman, John. Seven Principles for a Happy Marriage.

Gunther, Steve V. (2005). Understanding the Woman in Your Life: A man’s guide to a happy relationship. Sydney: Finch Publishing.

Hamson, Susan. (1998). The Rebuttal From Uranus. (critique of John Gray’s Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus).

Henley, Nancy, and Jo Freeman. (1984). The Sexual Politics of Interpersonal Behaviour. In Jo Freeman (ed.). Women: A Feminist Perspective. California: Mayfield Publishing Company.

Hite, Shere. (1981). Relationships With Women. Chapter 2 in The Hite Report on Male Sexuality. New York: Alfred A. Knopf.

Hite, Shere, and Kate Colleran. (1989). Good Guys, Bad Guys, and Other Lovers. London: Pandora.

Hood, Jane C. (ed.). (1993). Men, Work, and Family. London: Sage.

Jansen, David, and Margaret Newman. (1998). Really Relating: How to Build an Enduring Relationship. (2nd edition) Milson’s Pt, NSW: Random House.

Kramer, Jonathan, and Diane Dunaway. (1991). Why Men Don’t Get Enough Sex and Women Don’t Get Enough Love. Pocket Books.

Kipnis, Aaron, and Elizabeth Herron. (1994). Gender War, Gender Peace: The Quest for Love and Justice Between Women and Men. New York: William Morrow and Company.

Kivel, Paul. (1992). Becoming Partners. In Men’s Work: How to Stop the Violence that Tears Our Lives Apart. Hazelden.

Kupers, Terry A. (1993). Men in Couples. Chapter 4 in Revisioning Men’s Lives: Gender, Intimacy, and Power. New York & London: Guilford Press.

Langford, A.T. (1995). Why Men Marry: Insights From Marrying Men.

Levant, Ronald F. (1996). The Crisis of Connection Between Men and Women. Journal of Men’s Studies, 5(1), May.

Levine, Judith. (1992). My Enemy, My Love: Man-Hating and Ambivalence in Women’s Lives. New York: Doubleday.

Lamble, Jo, and Sue Morris. (2000). Side by Side: How to Think Differently About Your Relationship. Sydney: Finch Publishing.

Love, Patricia and Jo Robinson. (1994). Hot Monogamy: How to Achieve a More Intimate Relationship With Your Partner. London: Judy Piatkus

Myers, Michael. (1998). How’s Your Marriage: A Book for Men and Women. Washington, DC: American Psychiatric Press.

Nock, Steven L. (1998). Marriage in Men’s Lives. Oxford University Press.

O’Brien, Mary E. (1991). In Sickness and in Health: What Every Men Should Know About the Woman He Loves. Health Press.

Osherson, Samuel. (1992). Wrestling With Love: How Men Struggle With Intimacy With Women, Children, Parents, and each Other. New York & Toronto: Fawcett Columbine.

Potts, Annie. (1998). The Science Fiction of Sex: John Gray’s Mars and Venus in the bedroom. Sexualities, 1(2).

Rabin, Claire. (1996). Equal Partners - Good Friends: Empowering Couples Through Therapy. London & New York: Routledge.

Real, Terrence. (2002). How Can I Get Through to You? Re-connecting Men and Women. Newleaf.

Renfrow, Jan. (1991). What Compassionate Men Need to Know About Women. Janart-Love.

Rhodes, Sonya, and Marlin S. Potash. (1988). Why Men Don’t Commit. New York: Dutton.

Rose, Suzanna. (1995). Women’s Friendships (section, “Friendships With Men”), in Chrisler, Joan C. and Hemstreet, Alyce Huston. (eds). Variations on a Theme: Diversity and the Psychology of Women. New York: State University of New York Press.

Rosewater, Lynne Bravo. (1993). New Roles/New Rules: A Guide to Transforming Relationships Between Men and Women. Pasadena, CA: Trilogy.

Rubin, L. (1983). Intimate Strangers: Men and Women Together. New York: Harper and Row. See Chapter, “The Approach-Avoidance Dance: Men, Women and Intimacy” (Also in Kimmel, Michael and Messner, Michael. (eds). (1992). Men’s Lives. New York & Toronto: Macmillan/Maxwell (2nd edition)).

Schnarch, David. (1997). Passionate Marriage: Sex, Love and Intimacy in Emotionally Committed Relationships. New York & London: W.W. Norton & Co..

Schwartz, Pepper. (1994). Love Between Equals: How Peer Marriage Really Works. New York: Free Press.

Shem, Samuel, and Janet Surrey. (1999). We Have to Talk: Healing Dialogues Between Men and Women. Rydalmere, NSW: Hodder & Stoughton.

Shoshanna, Brenda. (1999). Why Men Leave: Men Talk About Why They Decided to End the Relationship--And What Might Have Changed Their Minds. Perigee.

Swain, Scott O. (1992). Men’s Friendships With Women: Intimacy, Sexual Boundaries, and the Informant Role. In Nardi, Peter M. (ed.). Men’s Friendships. London: Sage.

Van Horn, William. (2000). The 7 Steps to Passionate Love: Why Men Are Not From Mars and Women Are Not From Venus. Greenleaf Book Group.

Walker, Karen. (1994). Men, Women, and Friendship: What They Say, What They Do. Gender & Society, 8(2), June.

Welwood, John. (year?). Journey of the Heart. (how to do relationships).

Wenning, Kenneth. (1998). Men Are From Earth, Women Are From Earth: A Guide to Winning Cooperation From Your Spouse. Jason Aronson.


c) Sexual Addiction

Carnes, Patrick. (year?). Don’t Call It Love.

Carnes, Patrick. (1983). The Sexual Addiction. Minneapolis.

Carnes, Patrick. (1985). Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction. Minneapolis, MN: CompCare.

Carnes, Patrick. (1989). Contrary to Love. Minneapolis: Compcare.

Diamond, Jed. (1994). Healing our Codependency, Sex, and Love Addictions. Chapter 4 in The Warrior’s Journey Home: Healing Men, Healing the Planet. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications.

Hunter, Mic. (1990). The First Step for People in Relationships With Sex Addicts: A Workbook for Recovery. Minneapolis, MN: Compcare Publishers.

Hunter, Mic. (1992). Joyous Sexuality: Healing From Family Sexual Dysfunction. Minneapolis, MN: Comp Care Publishers.

Mura, David. (1987). A Male Grief: Notes on Pornography and Addiction. Minneapolis: Milkweed Editions.

Plummer, Ken. (1995). Recovery Tales. Chapter 7 in Telling Sexual Stories: Power, Change and Social Worlds. London & New York: Routledge.

Rowland, Craig. (1986). Reinventing the Sex Maniac. The Advocate, 21 January, pp. 43-49.


d) Recovery & self-help

Babcock, Marguerite, and Christine McKay. (eds). (1995). Challenging Codependency: Feminist Critiques. Toronto: University of Toronto Press.

Bates, Charles. Mirrors for Men.

Donovan, Frank. (1999). Dealing With Anger: Self-Help Solutions for Men. Sydney: Finch Publishing.

Fossum, Merle. (1989). Catching Fire: Men Coming Alive in Recovery. Harper/Hazelton.

Hardy, Marshall and Hough, John. (1991). Against the Wall: Men’s Reality in a Codependent Culture.

Herndon, Sandra L. (2001). The paradox of powerlessness: Gender, sex, and power in 12-step groups. Women and Language, Fall, Vol. 24, Iss. 2.

Hill, Karen. (1984). Helping You Helps Me: A Guide Book for Self-Help Groups. Ottawa: Canadian Council on Social Development.

Irvine, L., and B. Klocke. (2001). Redefining Men: Alternative Masculinities in a Twelve-Step Program. Men and Masculinities, 4(1): 27-48.

Kaminer, Wendy. (year?). I’m Dysfunctional, You’re Dysfunctional: The Recovery Movement and Other Self-Help Fashions. Reading, MA: Addison-Wesley Publishing Company.

Kaufman. (year?). Help At Last: A Complete Guide To Coping With Chemically Dependent Men.

Lee, J. (year?). Recovery: Plain and Simple.

Lenfest, David. (year?). Men Speak Out: In the Hearts of Men’s Recovery.

McIntyre, Jeffrey. (1991). Reflections on Male Codependency. In Bepko, Claudia. (ed.). Feminism and Addiction. New York: Haworth Press.

Nathaniel, Branden. (1987). How to Raise Your Self-Esteem. New York: Bantam Books.

Plummer, Ken. (1995). Recovery Tales. Chapter 7 in Telling Sexual Stories: Power, Change and Social Worlds. London & New York: Routledge.

Reiser, Christina. (1999). Reflections on Anger: Women and men in a changing society. Westport, CT: Praeger.

Schilling, K. M., and A. Fuehrer. (1993). The Politics of Women’s Self-Help Books. Feminism Psychology, 3(3): 418-422.

Simonds, Wendy. (1992). Women and Self-Help Culture: Reading Between the Lines. New Brunswick, NJ: Rutgers University Press.

Singer, Jefferson A., and Robert Coles. (1997). Message in a Bottle: Stories of Men and Addiction. Free Press.

Starker, Steven. (1989). Oracle at the Supermarket: The American Preoccupation With Self-Help Books. New Brunswick: Transaction.

Whitfield, Charles L. (1987). Healing the Child Within. Pompano Beach, FL: Health Communication.

e) Grief

Brabant S., C.J. Forsyth, and C. Melancon. (1992). Grieving Men: Thoughts, Feelings, and Behaviors Following Deaths of Wives. Hospice Journal, 8(4), pp. 33-47.

Chethik, Neil. (2001). Father Loss: How sons of all ages come to terms with the deaths of their dads. New York: Hyperion Books.

Colgrove, Melba, Harold Bloomfield, and Peter McWilliams. (year?). How to Survive the Loss of a Love.

Combs, Don C., and Herbert K. Hegar. (1996). A Gender/Ethnic Investigation of Relationship Closeness to the Father and the Experience of Grief. Journal of Men’s Studies, 4(4), May, pp. 341-353.

Doka, Kenneth J., and Terry Martin. (1998). Masculine Responses to Loss: Clinical Implications. Journal of Family Studies, 4(2), October.

Dunn, Michael. (2006). Time to Grieve: How to come through bereavement to recovery and growth. (2nd edition) Oxford: howtobooks.

Elmer, Lon. (year?). Why Her, Why Now?.

James, John, and Frank Cherry. (year?). The Grief Recovery Handbook.

Kubler-Ross, Elizabeth. (1977). On Death and Dying. London: Tavistock.

Levang, Elizabeth. (1998). When Men Grieve: Why Men Grieve Differently and How You Can Help. Fairview Press.

Lund, Dale A. (ed.). (2001). Men Coping With Grief. Amityville, N.Y.: Baywood pub. Co.
Pt. I. Conceptualizing and Describing Death, Grief, and Masculinity.
1. Building Your Ship of Death for the Longest Journey Over Endless Seas / Sam Keen.
2. The Ontology of Masculinity - The Roots of Manhood / Neil Thompson.
3. Take It Like a Man: Masculine Response to Loss / Kenneth A. Doka; Terry Martin.
4. The Vietnam War: An Ongoing National Grief Response / Angeline Bushy; John R. Bushy.
5. Gay Men: Grieving the Effects of Homophobia / John E. Hart.
6. Emerging from the Anguish: A Father’s Experience with Loss and Grief / Kent Koppelman.
7. Research on Gender Differences in Bereavement Outcome: Presenting a Model of Experienced Competence / Susan E. Allen; Bert Hayslip, Jr.
Pt. II. Research on Grief.
8. The Role of Gender in a Three-Year Longitudinal Study of Bereavement: A Test of the Experienced Competence Model / Bert Hayslip, Jr; Susan E. Allen; Laura McCoy-Roberts.
9. When the Unexpected Happens: Husbands Coping With the Deaths of Their Wives / Dale A. Lund; Michael S. Caserta.
10. American Widowers with School-Age Children: An Exploratory Study of Role Change and Role Conflict / Douglas E. O’Neill; Robert Mendelsohn.
11. Gender Differences Related to Sexuality in Widowhood: Is It a Problem for the Male Bereaved? / Kathryn Hustins.
12. Male Attitudes on Funeral Rites and Rituals / Paul Sakalauskas.
Pt. III. Interventions and Helping Strategies.
13. Assessment and Treatment of Grief States in Older Males / Eric D. Rankin.
14. The Bereaved Crisis Worker: Sociological Practice Perspective on Critical Incident Death, Grief, and Loss / Robert Bendiksen; Gregory Bodin; Kathy R. Jambois.
15. The Grief of Male Children and Adolescents and Ways to Help Them Cope / David Adams.
16. A Grief Unheard: A Woman’s Reflection on a Men’s Grief Group / Peggy M. L. Anderson.
17. Grieving Reproductive Loss: The Bereaved Male / Kathleen Gray.
18. Grief of the Abused Male / Alan Stewart.
19. The Eloquence of Pain: Poetry of Bereaved Fathers Following a Perinatal Loss / Michael Dilts.

Martin, Terry, and Kenneth J. Doka. (2000). Men don’t cry -- women do: transcending gender stereotypes of grief. Philadelphia, Pa.; London: Brunner/Mazel.

Myers, Edward. (1986). When Parents Die: A Guide for Adults. Penguin Books.

Schwab, Reiko. (1996). Gender Differences in Parental Grief. Death Studies, March, 20(2).

Staudacher, Carol. (year?). Men and Grief.

Back to Main Menu

Excerpted from The Men's Bibliography: A comprehensive bibliography of writing on men, masculinities, gender, and sexualities, compiled by Michael Flood.
19th edition, 2008, Canberra, Australia. ISBN 0 646 18088 6

Home URL: http://mensbiblio.xyonline.net/